This is for every single lady who is praying for her God’s best, for every single lady who is hoping to find the one, for every single lady in a relationship hoping for it to last, for every single lady in an open or complicated relationship struggling to go on and for every single lady who is putting her hope and faith in love. This is for you.
True love does exist. There is hope.
You don’t have to chase it, it will chase you – the right way. You only need to cooperate when it comes knocking at your door and see where it leads you. Never settle for anything less and for someone who doesn’t treat you right. Don’t be afraid to be single again, if being single will set you free from a toxic relationship. In the same vein, don’t be afraid to give yourself a chance to experience true love, it’s still, after all, everyone’s ultimate dream. Don’t live in fears. It won’t get you anywhere, but regrets. Open your door to someone who deserves a chance, but know when to close one. Know when it’s right and when it’s time to let go. Move on easily when it’s time to, because there’s so much more in life than a sleepless night and heartbreak. End the drama. Don’t be a victim, instead, start wearing your tiara. Life is best when you live in adventures and happy days. Seek God and love yourself. The right one will come along when you are ready and when you know what you are truly looking for and when you know what’s right and what you deserve. While having a list of all these qualities won’t instantaneously tell you the direction of where your better half is, it will, on the one hand, guide you to have a better discernment in recognizing the right one.
Filter what’s important and don’t be blinded with anything that glitters temporarily. If it will help you, list down all the qualities you want for a partner. From the list, classify them as ‘non-negotiables and ‘negotiables’.
‘Non-negotiables’ are those qualities you obviously cannot trade off. These are the core values and qualities you cannot afford to compromise because of their understandable significance. It really depends on what you value most in life, but to share some qualities, you may have a look at the list below:
- Someone who has a personal relationship with God.
- Someone who has a good personality and loves himself, family and friends.
- Someone who is smart, responsible and hardworking.
- Someone who will love you truly.
- Someone who is loyal and faithful.
‘Negotiables’ are those qualities which you can set off or compensate with another quality, without making you feel you’re settling for less. Again, this is subjective and varies mainly on your personality and values. These qualities will make you happy if you find them in your potential partner, but then it won’t also make you unhappy if your partner doesn’t have them. You may want to check the author’s sample list:
- Someone who is filthy rich.
- Someone who is tall and good-looking.
- Someone who is funny and cool.
- Someone who is adventurous.
- Someone who has an attractive career and credentials.
However, the list varies on your priorities and values in life. A certain quality, for example, in your ‘non-negotiables’ may be found in the ‘negotiables’ of another person, or vise versa. It really depends on the person making the list. But having a list in your mind you will always be reminded of what you really want.
Take time to contemplate and reach out to yourself. Know what you really want and not what you think you want or what others want for you. Remember this is your life. In the process, this might also help you get to know yourself even more. Your preferences will somehow reveal your values and personality, known or unknown to you. As you go on writing every qualities, you are as well defining yourself. There are no correct or incorrect list; no too ambitious or no too low standards. Remember that behind all these qualities is a person hoping for love to come along – and that is you.